FORUM : CRIME INVOLVING CHILDREN

Is it justifiable to blame the caretakers of the child when something bad happened to them. It is supposed to be fate.

Me : Aaah! Poor FATE. It is often blamed for the shortcomings of mankind!

I believe it is all about POWER. Kids don't or cannot fight back so that way the pepertrators can get away with it. People who victimise kids are really SICK and WEAK people. They feel the satisfaction and power only with children. I suspect they have also been abused when they were children.

Concur ~ it's said that in most of the crimes involving children that most of the pepetrators did had a bad childhood themselves. But what amazed me is this Hami, aren't they supposed to be more compassionate towards whatever crimes that they are doing right now, bearing in mind the kind of dark childhood that they've been thru? How can they do what they did (sexual act of what not towards a helpless being? )

Aren't they supposed to take out the vengeance on the adults that made them what they are today instead of the other way round? Is there no way for them to break the chain of senseless violence?

Me : Well, we are dealing with weak and sick people. To hide their weaknesses  or low self-esteem, they feel the "power" and satisfaction out of causing hurt to defenceless people especially children who usually cannot fight back.

You see, families are the training ground from which children learn the social and emotional competencies that help them deal with challenges of life later. An abusive childhood can, to those who lack resilience cause the child to accept it as the way to go. They cannot tell the difference. As you know, children also learn from family members good words, deeds as well as abusive words and what have you.